OBSERVATORY OF GENDER Love is not suffering: Day and lovers Women's DG / SS Social Welfare / Social Development Ministry of Gender Equality Observatory - 2011
OBSERVATORY GENDER EQUITY
Love is not suffering: Day and lovers
Every year on February 14 is more important on the agenda, primarily driven by the market. Valentine's Day, known as Valentine's Day, omitting more than half of humanity, rises to its maximum power the myth of romantic love and erotic female reinforces passivity.
The Observatory for Gender Equity, we are promoting a program, "Language and Speech: Towards a language free of discrimination." We recognize that language is one of the most impenetrable bastions of patriarchal power.
in this direction will bring our seed to achieve a more inclusive society and equitable. We propose, therefore, called "Love Day" instead of lovers.
Here are some thoughts on the origin of the date, and historicizing about love and the place assigned to women in the bond of love.
Valentine Ritual: between idealization and reality
love and Valentine's day, as the love that honor, they weave in a long history of light and shadow.
of its protagonist, before being told that saint, was a Christian bishop who lived in the third century, in times of decline of the Roman Empire. The fate of the empire was at stake, partly in the battlefields, III and the emperor Claudius banned marriage for soldiers in the fight to avoid the potential disruptive effects of emotional tie to a family.
Valentine, held at his inauguration, invited, then young people to come to him to consecrate the union. Discovered the transgression, and when he refused to recant the faith he was imprisoned and sentenced to death. During his confinement, he agreed to give lessons to Julia, the blind daughter of his jailer. The story goes that, having made love with her and the miracle of restoring sight, on the eve of his execution, he sent a note signed farewell with the words "in your Valentine. " The gesture should be the beginning of a long established practice that to date he is remembered.
Indeed, Valentine went to the official story after his canonization, two centuries after his death, and in the Catholic calendar was the day on 14 February. As a sign including the collapse of the old imperial order, and the advent of the Christian West, the commemoration of the new saint was imposed on the Lupercalia, celebrations, according to some interpretations, consisted in rites of purification and fertility for the same date performed in honor of the god Lupercus. Valentine
longer wield membership the saints in the second half of the twentieth century. However, other rituals of secular and profane enthroning continue to the present. His day-to-carry their own name attached, as an unavoidable fact, belong to the lovers. And the love too, although they are excluded in the expression of an ancestral discrimination and invisibility, the product of a sexist use of language.
The date in question is a good excuse to reflect on love and its circumstances. This celebration has acquired, in these times, a popularity that, after the idealized image of two together, combining into a perfect fit postmodernism and marketing. Love takes incarnation fetish-ware in a thousand objects, without whose support seems to lose entity. They are at your service, plenty of care listed on the rise with the single name. Images is presented in crystallized and ephemeral performances boast delicate regardless of glamor or fantasy kitsch. In this post multiforme of the culture of immediacy, stripped of history, forget the subjectivities and obscures the social and interpersonal conflict.
The vicissitudes of love, needless to say, embodied in human beings enrolled in a historical context. Time, culture and social status have provided the anchor in which to place contingencies. And in this journey through time and spaces, it is interesting to recognize the ways in which love is embodied in women. The exaltation of loving feeling linked to it, has gone hand in hand with her veil and support. Modernity enabled
model of romantic love as a way to overcome the conventions governing the relationship "love", until then corseted in imposition of a spouse, which fell short of personal choices mediated by affection and sheltered in an area of \u200b\u200bprivacy.
While imposing the capitalist bourgeois order, freedom was constrained by the regulatory rigor of the nature monogamous heterosexual union. Sexuality was limited the institution of marriage, but the man was granted certain licensing practices of courtship and conquest from outside this area. The space of domesticity became the realm of a woman recognized in their virtues, modesty and affection, and their reproductive fitness, passive-giving unconditional love and offspring.
For the transgression of the established, there were names, institutions and punishments were the clear expression of coercion. What once represented the inquisitorial witch for action, more recently they were insane for scientific practice. If the exemplary punishment and confinement idle paid off, as much or more achievements, for the purposes of discipline, a nuanced speech, subtle and even seductive appeal the conviction about the suitability, natural or obvious to the established order.
cause Romantic love brings feelings and emotions, if not overflowing passion and effort that is ecstatic after making that promise exclusivity, unconditionally and forever. Literature, film, music raised this way of understanding the love of an art and assured him the importance and sustainability.
The presumed feelings and emotions poured into the love letters that once marked the rite of Saint Valentine, abandoned with the passage of time his private character, to become material and cultural goods from the factories. In the new context, it is interesting to trace how different musical genres offer variants of romantic love. In many lyrics, the idealization of women is subsumed insurmountable gender models that do more than recognize a role for props.
Within the vast repertoire of popular music, emerging verses that refer to nutrients fed and relational models of social imagination, which can support diverse expressions of gender violence. The cancellation of the other party, the pain inflicted, self-sacrifice, the merger indissoluble, forgetting the melodies lash life catchy and endlessly repeated, ranging chiseling subjectivity based on asymmetries and hierarchies.
For a sample, we cut some lyrics of popular songs, boleros, tangos, rock nacional, poems -. Language charged with meaning that builds reality
so you know all that you belong to me;
with blood in my veins I will mark the forehead
to respect you,
even with your eyes,
and know that you are
my private property (my private property, Modesto Lopez)
I feel your moorings
As hooks, and claws
I'm drowning in the beach and partying
From
pain (Light Moon, Alvaro Carrillo Alarcón)
And today at her debased and other arms surrendered,
was for me a stab of jealousy and blinded me, and I swear
still can not convince
as I could hold back and not just there
killed (I drink and I, Manuel Romero)
You go because I want you to go
when I want to stop you
I know my love you need
because like it or not I am your master
( turned around, José Alfredo Jiménez)
rather be pure blood and that this is the life
an old jade ornament, one in your cabinet.
So break me, kill me, but do not ignore me, no, my life, I prefer
you kill me every day that I die
(break me, kill me, Juan Carlos Calderón)
I own your hot side,
am leader of your most urgent I'ma craftsman
your human side
the commander of your front.
(Your front, Andrés Calamaro)
In an era in which recites and practices promote equality in different orders, other forms of relationship and love are possible exercises. In light of the social transformations of the second half of the twentieth century, new forms of love are born joining the affection and eroticism, recognizing the freedom of choice and parity pair bonds.
Here are some examples of voices that invite equity:
If you want
is because you are my love, my accomplice and all,
and on the street, arm in arm,
we are more than two.
(I love you, Mario Benedetti)
My life with you,
is this and what you know, the world
two
the before and after.
Love is not just giving
love is more than burn ...
and is like a warm bath of affection.
(My life with you, Eladia)
Valentine
That taps into new rituals, enablers of these new ways of sharing love.
Monitoring Team for Gender Equity: Aida Maria Bengochea
Geraldine Gabriela Beatriz Leonardi
Parola
Coordinator: Susana B.
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